Am I Being Gamed by a Girl?

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The girl I have been dating for the past 1 1/2 months never initiates a phone call or even text conversation, travels frequently without contact, and seems like she is purposely acting aloof just to play games. However, whenever we meet in person, sparks fly and we get along just great, not to mention the wild sex after. I can read her quite well in person and she is definitely crazy about me, especially when her eyes light up and the vibe I get during dates.

Do any of you think her aloofness is an attempt to try and make me "chase her" and have her control the relationship OR is she a typical modern cunt that is probably fucking 3 other guys right now? Is this a proper post-modern day dating tactic that women use? I heard there are a few books that all women read such as "The Rules" that women use to fuck with men.

What is the most rational tactic to take when dealing with a post-feminist girl attempting to game you? These little games are really starting to piss me off hard..


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By Roosh
1. They’re fat.
2. They’re constantly glued to their phone.
3. They cut their hair short.
4. They’re more impressed by a crappy DJ than a doctor who saves lives.
5. They think being funny and witty is a quality that men love.
6. They listen to magazines like Cosmo when it comes to pleasing men.
7. They don’t know how to cook.
8. They wear flip-flops even when they’re not at the beach, pool, or in their house.
9. They have condoms in their drawers because they expect to have random sex with strange men .
10. They cannot dance. They also do not know how to sing or play basic musical instruments.
11. They idolize drug addicted celebrities, mimicking their brain-dead behaviors.
12. They acquire pets instead of putting effort into landing a quality man.
13. They don’t know how to be sexy.
14. They have standards way beyond their level of attractiveness.
15. They think having a good job means they’re a good catch.
16. They wear pajamas in public.
17. They like Twilight and The Secret .
18. Their idea of travel is going to the beach or France.
19. They have too many trashy tattoos.
20. They are proud to date multiple guys at the same time, as if they were men.
21. They are not close to their family, and would rather die than take care of aging parents.
22. They say filthy things in bed when you hardly know them.
23. They cockblock regularly.
24. They make lame excuses for not putting effort into their appearance.
25. They obsess about the environment above what is reasonable, even though they pollute more than 90% of people in the world.
26. They always lie by saying, “I’ve never done this before.”
27. They confuse being a challenge with being whiny and annoying.
28. They are acne prone.
29. They watch way too much TV.
30. On their way home from work, they put on dirty sneakers that don’t match their outfit.
31. They only dress up for special occasions, like a friend’s birthday, Presidential inauguration, or a Sex and the City movie premiere.
32. They like to age their skin prematurely through frequent tanning.
33. They insist on eating pizza or otherwise fattening food after a night of binge drinking.
34. They’re obsessed with cupcakes .
35. They care more about maintaining their career than a good home.
36. They rarely wear high heels.
37. They think dining out and eating food slathered with butter and salt makes them cultured.
38. They don’t speak a foreign language.
39. They are uncomfortable in their own skin.
40. They like Ikea furniture.
41. They have the intellectual curiosity of a dung beetle.
42. They go on and on about the stupidest shit.
How long do you leave her alone? If you were to refrain from contacting her for, say, ten days, would she still not attempt to reach you?

I think the percentage of women who read these books (e.g., The Rules ) and follow their precepts for the purpose of securing a solid relationship is quite low. Whether she is seeing others I will not guess, but I wouldn't put a lot of faith in her.

Women who are worth spending time with tend to be coy and somewhat aloof, unless they're convinced you are aiming to marry them. This isn't ''gaming'' or any kind of post-feminist madcap ploy. Its just the way women are.

This lady doesn't want you think you have her at your beck and call, lest you come to take her for granted. If all you do is fuck her and occasionally take her to a movie or for cocktails, she figures if she acts like she likes you too much you might not respect her anymore.


I am a moody idealist with glasses and no money, but I'm pretty sure if you're just "in a relationship" that isn't going anywhere in particular (like a Church), and she keeps it that way, you should end it, she isn't serious and will eventually run herself into the ground.


I text her every 2-3 days and call her when I set up a date. I don't want to hint at being clingy, but it seems like if it wasn't for me there would be no contact whatsoever or the 5-6 dates we have been on. She has never initiated a conversation, but I always get a lengthily and upbeat responses from her, and she always agrees on the date. I have dated a lot the past 2 years and have never experienced a girl this aloof and cold. I am completely puzzled, since I can tell she is really into me but whenever we are not on a date, she plays the "aloofness" game that has really started to irritate and anger me the past 2 days. I'm afraid me being pissed off will eventually lead to a chimpout and me dumping her when it could have worked out otherwise.

Niccolo and Donkey
If you want a serious relationship with this chick, then let it proceed as it is already unfolding. Don't force the issue. You're already letting her dictate what's going on by letting it eat away at you.

Also, we were supposed to have a day date yesterday (and a night date as well) when she got back from a trip with her girlfriends, and she never called to cancel or let me know she would be late for the date, then flake'd and said she was staying it. I am not speaking to her today...How long should I do no contact? Women are fucking difficult, I don't have time for these games.

Niccolo and Donkey
Don't contact her for at least a week or two and if she doesn't contact you by then, you simply ask her out for a fun night. If she says no, then forget her.
Bronze Age Pervert

You should assume she is fucking other guys...if you're not OK with that, don't bother with her. Also, act other words, don't limit your own options and don't do anything for her in the way of favors, chores, or going places you wouldn't like to, etc.; as long as it's a loose affair you have nothing to lose, just enjoy yourself.

How long have you known her, and do you know what her habits are in general, what her past affairs were like, and so on.